Why is Everyone So Insecure?

I am insecure. I am insecure about a million things. About the way I look in those new jeans I bought, the way my voice sounds when I sing higher notes and even the way my curly hair frizzes up on rainy days. Sometimes I am even insecure about whether I am…enough.

Sometimes I am even insecure about whether I am…enough.

As girls, it is absurdly easy to tear ourselves down. Once a thought enters into our minds, it lingers and festers, leaving us frustrated. We allow ourselves to be controlled by what we believe others think about us. We fear rejection and being alone. It may feel that we are the only ones that feel the way we do, but nothing could be farther from the truth.

Throughout my few young adult years I have learned invaluable lessons about the power of insecurity. Insecurity causes us to become self-absorbed, focusing all our attention on what we fear others think about us.

We begin to obsess about the way we look and present ourselves to others. Sometimes, it even causes us to place a wall around us, so that others think we are strong and flawless. Brick by brick, pride is built up and a throne of fear is edified. “No one will ever know how afraid I truly am.”

Brick by brick, pride is built up and a throne of fear is edified.

I have seen insecurity manifest itself in several ways. Some people try their hardest to stand out while others try to fade into the background. Some try to gain everyone’s favor while others pretend they don’t care.

What would our world look like if we allowed perfect love to rid us of fear? 1 John 4: 18 says:

“There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.” (1 John 4:18, ESV)

I only know of one true, pure, perfect love. His name is Jesus.

Growing up, I was the most shy, timid and nervous teenager on the planet. And this is no exaggeration. I could not look at people in the eye when I spoke with them. My voice shook whenever I tried to have a conversation with another human being.  I was so lost in my insecurity, that the view of my own worth was completely corrupted. I thought I was nothing.

I only know one true, pure, perfect love…Jesus.

When I met Jesus, and I mean truly met him, I was floored. Literally. I spent hours on the ground, face to the floor, simply hearing the sweet voice of the Holy Spirit revealing to me who I truly was. I realized my true worth and value, and it all began with perfect love. The love of God overwhelmed my young, timid heart, and I was never the same again.

I know that this sounds like a far off thing but, truth be told, the love of God is readily available to those willing to receive it. You no longer have to be insecure about the way you look, how others see you and even how you see yourself. You have nothing to fear. Perfect love is waiting for you.


With much love,

Paola Lopez

Published by Empowered Beauty

We are a collective of young women desiring to show God's beauty shinning through His daughters. Empowered = to give authority.

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