…and not let them control you.
I completely lost it. I was in the middle of a meltdown and there was no way for me to stop the river of tears that were now flowing from my eyes.
I was frustrated, disappointed and heartbroken.
My life had taken some unexpected turns and my emotions were all over the place. I had never learned to manage my emotions in a healthy way up to this point, and now I felt completely controlled by them.
Do you ever feel like in this crazy, messed up world you are always fighting a losing battle for peace? Like, everything around you seems to be falling apart and so are you? Do you feel like your heart can’t take it anymore?
Well, my friend, if that’s not you, it certainly is me.
I totally get it. Fighting back the flood of emotions is hard!
I’ve always been the type of person that allowed the circumstances around me to dictate how I’m feeling. I have quite the temper and it usually flares up when I’m really stressed out. Moreover, when life isn’t going according to my plans, which is usually the case, that can be really upsetting for someone like me!
However, this is not how God intends for us to live as women of God.
Throughout my journey with God, especially this past year, I’ve been learning to still my heart and walk in peace. I always assumed that peace was a matter of believing that God would rearrange my circumstances in order for me to experience peace.
This isn’t really how it works.
Peace isn’t a state of events but a state of mind.
In Psalm 46:10 (ESV) God commands His people by saying:
Be still and know that I am God. I will be exalted among the nations, I will be exalted in the earth!
This command is given to remind us that we have the option of choosing to not let our circumstances define the state of our hearts. We get to choose whether to have peace or allow our current circumstance to dictate our emotions.
The enemy wants us to buy into the lie that he gets to dictate how we feel. Then, when he attacks our minds we think we have to sit passively, allowing him to take us on a roller coaster of emotions.
However, there is so much more that God wants for us. You have power over your mind and over your emotions!
I want to share with you some tips on how you can have peace and not let Satan steal it from you!
TIP #1: Keep eternity in perspective.
Alright, I know this one might be a little unexpected, but hear me out.
In light of eternity, everything else seems rather dim. When all we can see is the here and now, we don’t react in wisdom or love.
In order to have peace when everything seems to be falling apart, we must view our lives with an eternal perspective. Everything that happens to us on earth is temporary and will eventually pass.
By understanding that our circumstances are temporary (even the attacks from the enemy of our souls), we can walk assured that peace is on the other side of our process.
At one point in the Bible Jesus tells his disciples to get on a boat to cross to the other side of the sea (Matthew 14: 22-27). In the middle of their voyage, the winds and waves arose against them. However, Jesus shows up walking on water and stills the storm. He did say they would get to the other side, right?
No matter what storm we are going through, Jesus still walks on water and brings peace and stillness to any situation. Have hope, sister! Even when the enemy is attacking, you can rest easy. God’s got this!
TIP #2: Do not stress but instead bless!
I have recently understood the full power of changing the language I speak. Many times the enemy will oppress us with lack of energy and motivation. If we partner with the atmosphere by speaking negatively, we allow Satan to win!
Instead, as daughters of God and women full of power, we have the ability to speak against what the enemy is doing. If we feel down and “blah,” we have to speak life and hope.
We can counteract the negative influence of the enemy and reverse the tide of emotions flooding us!
One of the biggest mistakes I personally make is complaining when I feel emotionally or physically drained. Sometimes, life just gets so hectic that I fly into a temper tantrum!
However, as a daughter of God, my words have power. Regardless of how I am feeling, I can’t allow how I am feeling to influence the way I am speaking.
Speaking negative words is like handing Satan ammunition and then telling him to make us the target!
My beautiful sister, speak life over every situation in your life. Where there is sadness, speak joy. Where there is brokenness, speak wholeness. Where there is anxiety, speak peace.
TIP #3: Be ready and alert at all times.
The enemy comes in to attack our minds and emotions when he knows we are at our weakest. Satan knows when we haven’t prayed in a while, read the Bible or when we are going through a tough situation.
Sadly, our enemy knows how to use our brokenness and weak areas to his advantage. This is why it’s so important to be alert at all times and be mindful of what we are allowing into our lives.
The Bible instructs us in 1 Peter 5:8 ESV as follows:
Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.
Don’t be the one he finds to devour. Girl, take up your sword and show the kingdom of darkness who your daddy is!
TIP #4: Take charge and walk in authority!
Okay, let’s put on our big girl pants now.
We have power over the way that we choose to feel. The biggest lie that I believed is that I had no power over my emotions. I thought that the way I felt was just the way that I felt. It couldn’t be helped.
However, this is not true.
The enemy wants us to believe that we are helpless in the face of depression, overwhelm and insecurity. He wants to steal our peace by making us believe that we can’t do anything to change the way we feel.
Sisters! You have power and authority through God’s word to resist the devil and watch him flee from you (James 4:7)!
I want to encourage you to stop the enemy from planting distressing thoughts in your mind to take away your peace. Do not give in to the pressure to cave in and be swallowed whole by your emotions.
Take charge of your spiritual life by resisting in prayer and reading your Word.
I know from personal experience that when I take the initiative to submit my emotions to the Holy Spirit, the way I feel completely changes.
Don’t allow Satan to steal your peace anymore!
Our peace is not determined by the way that we feel. We can’t allow the enemy to come in and speak his lies into our mind. Sister, we carry the power of God inside us!
We can change the way we feel by understanding that emotions come and go. One day you’ll feel happy and the next one you may feel down.
Don’t worry. We all go through this. However, we cannot allow our emotions to be our puppeteer.
Still your heart, beauty!
With all the love in the world,
Our names are Paola and Carla. And yes…we are identical twins! We are pastors, ministers and young women who are absolutely in love with Christ. Our passion is to empower other young women through the message of Jesus Christ to fulfill their live’s purpose.
Although we are young (23 years old if you’re wondering😉) we have been preaching, teaching and serving in ministry for almost ten years. We hope that through our writing you may be encouraged and empowered to step into the calling that God has over YOUR life.
Thanks for reading, sis!
Always praying for you,