We’ve all been there. That moment when disappointment hits like a wave and it seems like God is playing a cruel joke on us. The job went to someone else, a relationship ended, someone you love passed away. It hurts, but it doesn’t have to define you.
It’s important to go through seasons of brokenness but not to dwell on the pain that they bring. Notice that I said go THROUGH them. We aren’t meant to stay in the midst of our pain. God will process us THROUGH it.
Disappointment is a powerful tool that the enemy uses to make us believe that God’s best for our lives won’t come to pass. Sure, life is hard, but there is always a purpose to our pain. God is not done with me yet. Neither is He done with you.
Before I share with you some practical advice for finding healing when our hearts are burdened by pain, I want to clear something up first.
Healing is a process. And a very complicated one at that.
It takes time to heal from disappointment and heartbreak. The process isn’t clear cut. There will be times that you think you finally see the light at the end of the tunnel, only to be hit by a freight train of hurt again.
However, if you commit to finding wholeness again at the arms of the one who loves you more than you could ever imagine, you will receive healing. Promise.
Now, let me share some practical advice with you for healing from a broken heart:
1) Acknowledge the pain, don’t just ask for it to go away.
Pain can teach us a lot about ourselves. By acknowledging that we’re hurting and ceasing to hide away the hurt, we can actually begin to see hope for our future again.
I’m the type of person that when I’m hurting, I push people away. I act like everything is fine but every so often, I just loose it. I have a temper tantrum or I blow up on a loved one. None of this is fair to the people that care about me.
Hiding away the pain doesn’t make it go away. Sooner or later it creeps back up again. Instead, go before your Heavenly Father and ADMIT that you are hurting. Just let it all out before his presence and don’t hold back any of it. Trust me, He UNDERSTANDS.
2) Commit to forgiving those who hurt you.
Forgiveness is in itself is a process. It’s hard to choose to forgive someone but still feel the pangs of bitterness just at the mention of their name. However, I’ve learned that unforgiveness only holds one person captive. YOU.
Sometimes, we’re not even angry with people, we are actually angry with God.
Last year was pretty rough for me. Many things happened in my life that were not favorable and that I could not control. I became increasingly resentful towards God. I didn’t realize how much damage it was doing to my heart until I finally exploded.
I was finally able to forgive God, others and even myself when I began to dive into the Lord’s goodness again. If God could love me so much as to die for me, then who am I to hold anything against God or anyone else.
Learn to forgive others as Christ has forgiven you. Trust me. You were never meant to carry the burden of your own wrongs, or those done against you.
3) Renew your hope.
When we are hurting, it can be so easy to get so lost in our pain, that we begin to develop a cynical outlook on life. But here’s the thing, you can’t allow your hurt to control you.
I have realized in my own personal life that when I begin to put more emphasis on what I’m currently going through, it begins to feel like I will never see the light at the end of the tunnel. But believe me, there is always a light.
Change YOUR perspective. While you may not be able to change your situation, you can change the way you see it.
No matter what you are currently going through, don’t allow yourself to believe that it will never change. Nothing lasts forever, not even your pain. Whether you’re going through a hard breakup, job loss, transition or disappointment, as long as your trust is in God, you can make it through anything.
I encourage you to lift your eyes off of you and your situation, and instead believe that what God has for your future is still good because He is good.
4) Pray into God’s will for your life.
Life always takes unexpected turns. It is inevitable that we will find ourselves in situations with outcomes that don’t go along with what we had planned. Maybe you wanted something so badly, only to have it taken away from you.
I know, so unfair right?
But, when life’s circumstances don’t turn out the way we want, it’s important to reevaluate our motives and desires. Why am I so disappointed? Did I put more emphasis on what I wanted versus what God wanted for me?
Listen, God knows everything. He isn’t surprised when we get blindsided by tribulation or when we encounter an obstacle. He alone knows everything and He is in control of everything. Healing is found when we let go of our plans and instead choose to trust God with His.
Dear sister, be encouraged! God is the healer of all broken hearts. You’ll get through this.
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